I’m Tired of the Line

I was thinking today of how I miss the days of neighbors being neighbors, instead of human fence posts divided over a vote (or a nonvote).

I’m tired of the line that says, “Do not cross unless you agree.” Tired of sides. Tired of suspicious looks or decisions to keep a war going without thought of the cost. Because war always has a cost. If you don’t believe that, take a gander at all of the crosses at the Normandy American Cemetery and Memorial.

I’m tired of us and them being wielded like blades. Whatever happened to our and we? Whatever happened to together?

I remember, back in 2005, when Hurricane Rita hit Texas, where my parents live. Their neighborhood (outside of Houston) was without electricity for over a week. Since many had electric stoves, they were forced to cook on a grill. Neighbors cooked for other neighbors, gladly sharing what they had.

In geometry we’re told that a line is the shortest distance between two points (though some dispute the type of line). Maybe we could draw a line of connection between each other instead of a line that separates.

Neighbors being neighborly: https://laurabrunolilly.com/neighborly-meals/

Line image from imwithlee.com. Normandy crosses from duffelblog.

40 thoughts on “I’m Tired of the Line

  1. I think it’s mostly that you see the division on a grander scale while it doesn’t come out that often at local levels. Social media amplifies everything, but usually the bad. Humans love a train wreck, so the fights get more attention than the agreements.

  2. I’m so with you, Linda. I’m hoping and praying that the lines of divisions we’re experiencing now eventually convert into lines of connection. We have nothing to lose, and so much to gain. ❤️

  3. I’m with Charles, social media and the news outlets are huge factors in this divide. It’s sad. If I didn’t have books to promote, I’d definitely unplug permanently. It’s all so exhausting. I loved Laura’s post.

  4. Your questions, “Whatever happened to our and we? Whatever happened to together?” are on the hearts of many. Like Jill and Charles, I think the divide is related to social media and news outlets. Hang in there, this too will pass.

  5. Yes, I agree with Jill, if I didn’t have a book & blog to promote I would definitely take an indefinite break from most social media.

    You are a light in the darkness, L. Marie! Thank you. 😀

      • Whaaaat! I guess you just can’t stop being generous. I’ve never met a more open-handed soul. Thank you!!! ((( )))

        BTW, I agree with Gwen that social media and news outlets amplify (and often distort) the truth, and thus further divide us.

      • You’re welcome!
        They certainly do. Anything for attention, no matter who gets hurt! And people wonder why I don’t want a TV.

  6. Yes there are more lines now and I agree it’s tiring. I don’t know how we go back to being neighborly, but I suspect that deleting FB would be a good start while still writing and reading personal blogs, of course. We’re the good kind of good social media.

      • I left FB years ago. I’m not a drama queen and the people who I followed were. Plus it’s fascinating to see who pays attention to you once you leave. You’d be surprised who cares about you outside of FB– and who doesn’t. 🤨

      • Judging by some of the comments people have felt free to say to you (and I’m going by the memory of some of your blog posts), I can understand why you left Fb. A friend just mentioned recently that she deleted her account. I’m still debating about it. Some livestreams happen via Fb, which is the only reason why I haven’t done so.

  7. I’m with you. I try to keep in mind the words of one of our Town Select Board at one March Town Meeting before he became a board member: “I may disagree with you. But if I see your car off the road after the meeting, I’m going to stop and pull you out.”

  8. Such a good reminder. We can get through our disagreements when we start with our shared humanity and decide to take care of each other.

  9. I’m with you, Linda. It’s sad that so many people have allowed politics to destroy the idea of “agreeing to disagree.” There have always been the extremists, but it seems like the extremes have crept into the mainstream to where people feel their very moral existence hinges on whether they prefer red or blue. Then the generalizations about “the other side” start coming up, and as others have mentioned, social media and the press are constantly pushing people in one direction or another.

    We are so much more than our favorite team, whether its sports or politics. I’m all about that line of connection you mentioned. 🙂

  10. When I moved into Elm Place, a neighborhood of 36 houses, I realized I would have to abide by its rules. It’s a lovely neighborhood, so I didn’t mind giving up a little bit of autonomy. For example, one rule was that we should not put up yard signs. I didn’t think much about that one way or another. But now, during this election, I’m glad we have it. It’s a very friendly neighborhood, and I like all my neighbors. But I wonder if things would have changed if we’d known each other’s political leanings.

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