Saturday Winner and Question from Henry

I popped on with Henry (see below) because I said I would post the winner of Saint Ivy by Laurie Morrison. If you’re confused about that statement, click here to be taken to the interview post.

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So as not to keep you in suspense, the winner is Nicki. Yes, even the people I interview are still eligible to win books. The winner of her book will be announced next week.

Nicki, please comment below to confirm.

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Henry is here with his best friend—correction, one of his best friends—Gerry. Gerry is a little shy, so please forgive her if she doesn’t answer any questions. Just know that she says hello. But Henry wanted to be here today because he wonders if you have a best friend. He’s a young yeti, so that question is typical of the young. Older yetis might pointedly ignore you because of the human penchant for not believing they exist. Making sure you know they are ignoring you is their way of letting you see how it feels for someone to act like you don’t exist.

I’ll answer the question, Henry.

Henry: Thank you.

When I was a kid, I had a best friend. But we grew apart in our middle school years—a very difficult season of my life.

In high school I had only a few close friends—unlike my brothers. They attended the same high school and were very popular, not only there but at their universities. Though I’ve never been popular, I gained some great friends during my undergraduate and graduate school years.

So since childhood, I haven’t had one specific friend who has filled the role of a best friend. I think collectively, the really great friends I have, many of whom I have known for over a decade (some for decades) are even better than having just one best friend.

What about you? Do you have a best friend or best friends?

Laurie Morrison author photo and book cover courtesy of Laurie Morrison. Henry photo by L. Marie.

27 thoughts on “Saturday Winner and Question from Henry

  1. I have a few best friends. Though I don’t use the term as much as I did as a kid. Not since I realized the term went to whoever I got to hang out with the most. Creating a friend hierarchy struck me as a strange and unhealthy at that point.

    • Great advice from your mom, Jill. My mother said something similar. I can’t help thinking of a close friend of hers who has remained a friend for a long, long time.

  2. I love Henry and Gerry! And thank goodness for friends. I bounced around between ‘best friends’ growing up. I’ve moved away from my hometown, though I still stay in touch with a few. I’m blessed to have really close friends in my life now.

  3. I have just read a book about friendship, particularly women’s friendship, titled The Friends We Keep by Sarah Zacharias Davis. Apparently, it’s hard to maintain connections throughout one’s life. I have lots of acquaintances, but a few “True Blues,” who have stayed with me through thick and thin. Great post, L. Marie!

    • Thank you, Marian! Yes, female friendships seem to weather quite a few storms. My younger brother has the same group of friends he has had since kindergarten!!!

  4. Thank you, L.Marie. I’m so excited to have a book by Laurie. I’m looking forward to reading about Ivy.

    I wonder if the idea of ONE best friend makes sense for most of us. My one true, exclusive best friend was my late husband. But I had a lovely group of friends in middle and high school that I still keep in touch with. I’ve lost touch with my neighborhood friends from childhood, but I cherish the memories. Then there are the friends from college and grad school and from my days in the Philippines, Vanuatu, and the other neighborhoods and towns I lived in before I moved to Edmonds.I cherish them all and keep in touch when we can. Now my best friends are my sister and my three daughters. I miss my mother. And yet, this idea of ONE BEST FRIEND sometimes makes my wonder why I don’t. Maybe for many of us, it’s a literary construct that doesn’t apply.

    • So many friends change from seasons. I had some coworkers I thought were good friends but who dropped out of my life when I left the job. Other coworkers, however stuck around and we became good friends.

      Congrats again on winning Laurie’s book!

  5. Congratulations, Nicki! You’re in for a treat! And I didn’t have a best friend growing up, at least until I got to college. And there, I was so happy to be part of a large circle of friends who were there for each other. They’re the same people I’m getting together with now that the pandemic is less of a threat.

  6. I think for me, I prefer a more descriptive term, though not sure what it would be. As examples…I have a long time childhood friend who was a best friend back then and remains a dear & close friend now. I have a long time adult friend who was not a ‘best friend’ but a strong friend and someone who shared an understanding of the (he)artistic life and remains a dear & close friend now.
    I’m thinking the term ‘best friend’ is fine as a way of saying – someone special. But sounds kind of ‘juvenile’ and limiting in other contexts.
    I could count my hubby and daughter as best friends, but that really only touches the surface of that relationship.
    So, L.Marie, you as a writer, I know you get this parsing out of word meanings – and hopefully take no offense at my musings!
    I’m happy Harry has a ‘one of his best friends’ to pal around with – he is kind of a snarky fella to get along with, if I remember correctly!

  7. I guess I’ve had different best friends at different stages in life but no one particular friend whom I’ve known for ever and share everything with. The people who have been constant in my life, and who in reality have been my “best friends”, are my family.

  8. Ditto what Marian said above. I’ve had best friends, but we change as we grow older and move around in this world so BFFs fade away. I have acquaintances, but best friends are a rarity in my experience.

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